ﻫﺬﻩ
ﺑﻌﺾ
ﺍﻹﺭﺷﺎﺩﺍﺕ
ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻮﺟﻴﻬﺎﺕ
ﻋﻦ
ﻛﻴﻔﻴﺔ
ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻣﻞ
ﻣﻊ
ﺍﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ
(1)
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ﺃﻋﻂ ﻟﻠﺤﺪﺙ ﺃﻭ ﻟﻠﻜﻼﻡ ﺗﻌﺒﻴﺮﺍً ﻣﻦ
ﺍﻟﻮﺟﻪ ﻳﻨﺎﺳﺒﻪ ﺃﻭ ﻛﻼﻣﺎً ﺑﻼﺋﻤﻪ.
- (2)ﻓﻜّﺮ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﻗﻒ ﺍﻟﺮﺍﻫﻦ ﻻ
ﺑﺸﻲﺀ ﻣﻀﻰ ﺃﻭ ﺷﻲﺀ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﺒﻠﻲ ﺇﻻ
ﻋﻨﺪ ﺟﻠﺴﺔ ﺳﻜﻮﻥ ﻭﺗﺄﻣﻞ.
- (3)ﺇﻥ ﻛﺎﻥ ﻟﺪﻳﻚ ﻓﻜﺮﺓ ﺃﻭ ﻧﺼﻴﺤﺔ
ﻓﺎﻋﺮﺿﻬﺎ ﺑﺄﺳﻠﻮﺏ ﺣﺴﻦ ﻭﺍﺿﺢ ﻭ ﻻ
ﺗﺄﻣﺮ ﺑﻬﺎ ﻏﻴﺮﻙ ﻟﻴﻨﻔﺬﻫﺎ ﺇﻻ ﻳﻜﻮﻥ ﺗﺤﺖ
ﺇﻣﺮﺗﻚ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻄﺘﻚ.
- (4)ﻻ ﺗﺨﺎﻃﺐ ﻓﺮﺩﺍً ﺣﺘﻰ ﻳﻨﺘﻬﻲ ﻣﻦ
ﻛﻼﻣﻪ ﻭ ﻗﺎﺑﻠﻪ ﺑﻈﺎﻫﺮ ﻛﻼﻣﻪ ﻻ ﺑﻈﻨﻮﻥ
ﻭ ﺗﺨﺮ ﺻﺎﺕ ﻣﺴﺒﻘﺔ ﻟﺪﻳﻚ.
- (5)ﻋﻮّﺩ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻋﺪﻡ ﺇﺳﺎﺀﺓ
ﺍﻟﻈﻦ ﺑﺎﻵﺧﺮﻳﻦ ﺇﻻ ﺑﻤﺎ ﻳﻘﺘﻀﻴﻪ ﻇﺎﻫﺮ
ﺍﻟﻜﻼﻡ ﺃﻭ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻝ.
- (6)ﺇﺫﺍ ﻛﻨﺖ ﻓﻲ ﻣﻮﻗﻒ ﻣﺎ ﺃﻭ ﻋﻠﻰ
ﻫﻴﺌﺔ ﻣﻌﻴﻨﺔ ﻓﺘﺼﺮﻑ ﻭﻓﻖ ﺍﻟﺸﺮﻉ
ﺍﻟﻤﻄّﻬﺮ ﺑﻤﺎ ﻳﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﻗﻒ ﺃﻭ
ﺗﻠﻚ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻝ.
- (7)ﻣﺎ ﺗﻜﻨﻪ ﻟﻠﻐﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻴﺮ ﻭ ﺣﺐ
ﺃﻇﻬﺮﻩ ﻭﻻ ﺗﺠﻌﻠﻪ ﻛﺎﻣﻨﺎً ﻓﻲ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ
ﻭﺍﻟﻌﻜﺲ ﺑﺎﻟﻨﺴﺒﺔ ﻟﻠﺸﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﺒﻐﺾ.
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ﺇﺫﺍ ﻋﻤﻠﺖ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻃﺎﻋﺔ ﺃﻭ ﻓﻌﻞ
ﺧﻴﺮ ﺃﻭ ﺳﻨﺔ ﻓﻼ ﺗﻌﻘّﺐ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺃﻭ ﺗﺴﺒﻘﻪ
ﺑﺪﻟﻴﻞ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻘﺮﺁﻥ ﺃﻭ ﺍﻟﺴﻨﺔ ﻳﺆﻳﺪ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺇﻻ
ﺃﻥ ﺗﻜﻮﻥ ﻣﻌﻠﻤﺎً ﻟﻤﻦ ﺃﻣﺎﻣﻚ ؛ ﺧﺸﻴﺔ
ﺍﻟﺮﻳﺎﺀ.
- (9)ﺃﻭﻝ ﻛﻼﻡ ﻣﻊ ﺍﻟﻀﻴﻒ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ
ﺃﻥ ﺗﻄﻠﺐ ﻣﻨﻪ ﺍﻟﺘﻔﻀﻞ ﻭﺗﺮﺣﺐ ﺑﻪ.